जीवन को तनाव मुक्त रखने के उपाय।

 जीवन को तनाव मुक्त रखने के उपाय।

अत्यधिक अपेक्षा और गला काट प्रतियोगिता के कारण वर्तमान समय में दुनिया तनावपूर्ण हो गई है। अपने खुशी सूचकांक को कैसे सुधारें यह बहुत कठिन है। अपने जीवन को तनाव मुक्त रखने के लिए कृपया कुछ सरल नियमों का पालन करें

 नियम  1.

 अपनी और अपने बच्चों की दूसरों से तुलना करना बंद करें क्योंकि हम सभी अलग-अलग क्षमताओं और आईक्यू के साथ पैदा हुए हैं और इस पर हमारा कोई नियंत्रण नहीं है। IQ गॉड गिफ्टेड है। मछली जमीन पर नहीं चल सकती लेकिन पानी में खुशी से तैर सकती है। यदि आप मछली को जमीन पर चलने के लिए धक्का देते हैं। वह खुद को नुकसान पहुंचाएगी और यह सोचकर मर सकती है कि वह अक्षम थी।

 नियम  2 

1.ज्यादातर सभी पेशे/व्यवसाय केवल आजीविका कमाने का साधन हैं। एक खेती का पेशा भी सॉफ्टवेयर इंजीनियर के समान ही महत्वपूर्ण है और अगर हम बुनियादी बातों से तुलना करें .. हम तकनीक के बिना रह सकते हैं लेकिन भोजन के बिना नहीं आप जो भी काम कर रहे हैं। इसमें 100% देने की कोशिश करें। पेशा/व्यवसाय में बार-बार बदलाव असफलता और तनाव का कारण हो सकता है असाधारण लोग हर जगह मौजूद हैं। लेकिन यहां हम आम लोगों के बारे में चर्चा कर रहे हैं न कि बहुत उच्च बुद्धि वाले लोगों के बारे में।

 नियम 3 

कोई भी एकदम सही नहीं होता। जब तक आपको धोखा नहीं मिल रहा है या शारीरिक रूप से प्रताड़ित नहीं किया जा रहा है, तब तक हमें रिश्ते में एडजस्ट करना होगा। रिश्तों में मिठास लाने के लिए छोटी-छोटी गलतियों को माफ करना बहुत जरूरी है।

 नियम 4 

दिखावे के लिए ज्यादा कर्ज न लें। अपनी आय के भीतर खर्च करने का प्रयास करें।

 नियम  5 

अपनी अंतर्दृष्टि और स्वास्थ्य को बेहतर बनाने के लिए 5 या 10 मिनट के लिए योग या ध्यान करें

RULES FOR HAPPINESS

The world is become stressful in present time due to over expectation and cut throat competition .

How to improve your happiness index  is very tough . Please follow some simple rules to maintain your life stress free 

RULE NO 1.

Stop comparing yourself and your children with othres as we all are born with diffrenet capabilities and IQ and we have no control over it . IT is God Gifted. 

A fish cant run on ground but can swim in water happily.

If you push the fish to run on ground . She  would harm itself and can die thinking that she was incapable .

RULE NO 2

1.Mostly all professions/business are only means of earning livehood.A farming professsion is equally important as of software engineer and if we compare with basics .. we can live without technology but not witout food

Whatever work you are doing . Try to give 100% in it.changin profession/ business frequently can be a cause of failure and stress

exceptional case exist everywhere . But here we are disussing about common people not about people of very high IQ.

RULE NO 3

No one is perfect. We have to adjust in relationship until you are getting cheated or physically  tortured.

Forgiveness for small mistakes is key to create sweetness in relationship.

RULE NO 4

Dont take too much loan for show off . Try to spend within your income.

RULE NO 5

Do yoga or meditation for 5 or 10 minute to improve your insight and health.

BALANCE IN LIFE FOR HAPPINESS

 To understand what is success or happiness or a fulfilled life we have to understand what is life .Till now most people think that whatever we are seeing around us is life and this create a wrong concept in our mind and we start progresing in physical world 

 We do hard work day and night to get all physical possession and assume that one day when we will having all kind of physical thing with us then we can rest and be happy 

 But when we look back our life from chidhoood ,young ,and then old ,we can realise that something we missed .

This feeling of missing something is not new. This feeling comes in every human being time to time when somebody dies ,everyone become very spiritual and talk like

This whole life is a maya (people misunderstood it a illusion ) .

But after 3 to 4 days or one week we all forget  that death is going to take us with it one day .

So what is the solution???

Coming back i wrote that everyone in his life time start feeling that something missing or we dont feel fullfillment  inspite of having all the  physical things like home,car ,luxuries,privte jet or whatsoever one can think. 

The reason behind it that our  happiness is not increasing with increase of money and all physical matters

It indicates that we have put our step in wrong direction .so question arises  what is right direction ?

The answer is ..

 There are 2  dimension of life 

1. Physical and  

2 .Nonphysical 

When we live only physical dimension it  can never give us internal satisfaction though it is also important . Only a  means of earning livlihood 

Now come to.the second one that is NONPHYSICAL  ASPECT OF LIFE __THAT WE RE MISSING 

THIS IS MOST IMPORTANT TO FEEL AND LIVE LIFE COMPLETELY .

TO UNDERSTND IT WE NEED TO ANSWER BELOW LISTED QUESTION 

1.CAN WE SEE A TREE IN A SEED ??__NO 

BUT A TREE IS IN THE SEED --- YES 

2. CAN WE SEE BLOOD,BONES,MINERAL,VITAMIN IN FRUITS AND VEGETABLE -NO

BUT WHEN WE EAT IT ALL.THESE THINGS EXTRACTED WITHIN THESE FRUITS AND VEGETABLES

3. THERE ARE INFINITE PLANETS, IN UNIVSERSE AND  REVOLVING  ...WHICH FORCE OR ENERGY MAINTAINING THERE BALANCE ?

4. MOREOVER OUR LIFE IS NOT INDEPENDENT ..ITS AN INTERDEPENDENT PHENOMENON ALL PLANTS,ANIMALS ,

MICRO ORAGANISM ARE CONTRIBUTING TO SUPPORT OUR LIFE ON THIS PLANET 

THE PURPOSE OF ALL THESE QUESTION IS TO REALISE THAT OUR BIRTH AND DEATH ARE NOT IN OUR HAND.

BUT WE THINK THAT THE TIME AND ACTION BETWEEN LIFE AND BIRTH IS ALL IN OUR HAND AND WE CAN MOULD IT IR ,CHANGE IT 

THIS IS A ILLUSION 

BEFORE US MANY  GENIUS HUMAN CAME.ON EARTH BUT  IS ANYONE WAS ABLE TO CHANGE THE NATURE OF LIFE ..NO

MANY SCIENTIST SACRIFICE THEIR LIFE TO FIND OUT THE ROOT CAUSE OF THE  LIFE BUT THEY ALL ARE ABLE TO TOUCH ONLY PHYSICAL DIMENSION 

AND WHEN WE DISCOVER OR INVENT ANYTHING WE APPRECIATE A LOT TO THAT SCIENTIST ..BUT WE  NEVER APPRECIATE THAT ENERGY FROM.WHERE THE  SCIENTIST GETTING WISDOM.

NOW COME TO THE  BASIC QUESTION 

WHAT IS HAPPINESS AND WHAT IS A SUCCESSFUL.LIFE ?

BY NOW WE CAN UNDERSTAND THAT LIFE IS NOT COMPLETELY IN OUR HAND.,IT IS HAVING PHYSICAL AND NONPHYSICAL DIMENSION

WE ALL ARE AWARE WITH PHYSICAL.DIMENSION 

BUT WHEN WE START EXPERIENCING NONPHYSICAL.

DIMENSION OUR EGO DISSOLVE AND INTERNAL SATISFACTION INCREASES .WHEN WE REALISE THAT 99%OF THE ACTIVITIES ARE BEING DONE BY NATURE ITSELF THAT ARE MOST IMPORTANT FOR LIFE AS FOR EXAMPLE 

SUNRISING,GROWING PLANTS,MOTION OF EARTH ,STABILTY OF SOLAR SYSTEM  AND ALL THAT . THIS ENERGY ALSO AFFECT OUR STATE OF MIND AND THEN WE CHOOSE OUR KARMA AND ACTION..THESE KARMA BECOME.OUR PERAONLITY AND WE START LIVING LIFE ACCORDINGLY 

SOME BECOME DOCTROR ,ENGINEER,SCIENTIST ..ETC 

BUT CHOOSING PROFESSION  DEPEND ON OUTER CIRCUMSTANCES 

AS 400 TO 500 YEARS AGO NOBODY KNEW ABOUT IT OR COMPUTER SCIENCE THAT TIME NOBODY COULD THOUGHT BEING A IT PROFESSIONAL ..

AT THAT TIME PEPOLE ENJOY

AGRICULTURE OR THEIR PARENTAL PROFESSION LIKE POTTERY,CRPENTER,

BLACKSMITH 

IT MEANS  THAT OUR CONTRIBUTION FOR LIFE IS A VERY TINY AND PHYICAL ACHIEVEMENT ARE IMPORTANT ONLY TO SOME EXTENT 

BUT HAPPINESSS COMES THROUGH NON PHYSICAL DIMENSION OF LIFE 

WHEN OUR MIND TOUCH THAT DIMENSION .

MIND  CAN TOUCH THAT  DIMENSION BY PRACTISING MEDITATION 

THROUGH MEDITATION 

EYES OF WISDOM OPEN

MIND BECOME CALM AND THEN IT REALISE AND EXPERIENCE ITS SOURCE 

THE REASON OF ALL SORROW AND DISSATIFACTION IS WADERING OF MIND IN SEARCH OF PHYSICAL MATTERS .

BUT OUR MIND IS LIKE A CHILD WHO HAS GONE OUT FOR PLAY AND  WHILE RETURNING TO HOME HE FORGOT THE WAY TO HOME . NOW IT IS WANDERING HERE AND THERE BUT NOT ABLE TO FIND THE RIGHT PATH THAT CAN LEAD IT TO ITS HOME .

THROUGH MEDITATION MIND GET THE RIGHT PATH AND FIND ITS HOME(SOURCE) 

THIS IS THE ULTIMATE ACHIEVEMENT -ULTIMATE SUCCESS , BLISS,HAPPINESS AND JOY

 FOLLOW BELOW STEPS FOR HAPPINESS IN LIFE 

1.DONT COMPARE YOURSELF WITH OTHERS AS WE ARE ALL BORN WITH DIFFERENT CAPABILITIES 

2.DONT TAKE TOO MUCH  LOAN FOR SHOWING OFF TAKE LOAN IF IT CAN GENERATE INCOME .

3.STOP DAY DREAMING -ONLY TRY TO DO WHAT YOU CAN DO .DONT OVERBURDEN YOURSELF BY SEEING OTHERS.

4. SPEND.QUALITY TIME WITH YOUR FAMILY .

5. DONT TRY TO HAVE TOO.MANY EXTRA PHYSICAL OBJECTS . HAVE AS PER YOUR BASIC NECESSITY. REMEMBER THERE IS NO LIMIT FOR MORE ...

6. AVOID CONSUMPTION OF ALCOHOL,SMOKING ,DRUGS AND OTHER APHRODISIAC AS THESE GIVE YOU INSTANT RELAX BUT NOT GOOD FOR SATVIK CHINTAN .

7. MEDITATE REGULARLY AS IT HELPS TO  PURIFY OUR MIND,BODY AND SOUL.

HOW TO OVERCOME ANXIETY;DIPRESSION AND IMPATIENCE OF LIFE

 Our breath is the basis of our life .when rhis stop our connection with life energy stops and we call.it death 

If any one is suffering from anxiety,dipression,sleeplessness

Follow some steps to get rid of all.psychological issues 

1. Breath control :count your breath ,it should be 6 to 7.in a minute if frequency of breath cycle i.e. one incoming and one outgoing is more than 6 to 7 ;slow down it 

Your breath shoul reach upto navel 

2. In incoming breath your stomach should go up and while outgling breath our stomach should move down 

3  when in free time watch your breath lovingly with patience 

4

 In this process your mind will run to and fro ,you have to ignore it and dont try to control your mind ,keep watching your breath 

In 3 to 4 months mind would be very relax ,calm ,and frequency of unneccesary thought would get decrease .

Career

 There is lot of confusion about making career among young generation and their parent also .Everyone want to know and verify whether the career and education they are getting or giving to their children is right or wrong . They all have a fear of failure . One  more important aspect is that they want to know whether they have choose the right education as per their capability. If you are also one of them below is the answer .

1.We are all.born with different capability and interest . Our finger print are also unique therefore immediately stop comparing yourself or your child with any other child.

2.identify your natural interest and find out if there is any system in your education that can enhance that perticular interest and in future you can also teach such kind of attribute to others so that it can be a earning option too...dont worry if it will pay you less but it will make your life happy and cheerful and this the the ultimate achievement .only money will not justify your life .

3. If you drop a fish on ground ,she will die thinking that she has no capability as swimming in water its natural quality,it cant run or survive on ground.

Likewise if you throw a monkey or any animal who  cant  swim into the water,it will die thinking that he has no capability

But if you drop a fish into water and monkey on a tree they both will equally capable

Fish will live its life happily in water  and monkey will also live its life with joy on a tree

Likewise all children born with different interest and capability,dont ruin their life while compelling them to become like others.

How to identify their naturl intetest

1. Spend quality time with your children.

2. Stop watching tv,reading news paper if it is not required in your profession or for preparation of any exam ..the time you will.save can spend with your children and family it will give you a glimpse of natural capability of your children then you can take right decision.

3.involve with your kids for multiple task like gardening,dancing,singing,playing,meditation,yoga alonewith their academic studies

4. Give the kids  some descision making and take advice from them while dealing any family crisis or problem 

5.Dont make the children realise that money is too easy and give them plenty of money for their extravagance need ,this will ruin their life .

To be contnued .....

Parenting

If you have small kids ,finding the answer whether you are giving them what is best for their career and life ask following questions to yourself 

Before any advice always remember

The best thing you can give your children is an atmosphere filled with love,kindness and compassion

1. Whether you cry over your children- stop it as children are not your slave they are a different life no doubt they are born with your help ,still they deserve a free and independent life

2.How often parent fight before their children-if yes stop it .Before you advice your children not to fight each other ,parent should stop fighting with each other .

3. If you want your children to stop watching TV or using electronic gasstes ,parent should implement it on self otherwise children will not follow you,if you will compel them they will oversuse it when they will grow older then  they will not listen your good advice also .

4. Dont ask your children to fulfill your dreams as they are not a instrument to complete your dreams ,let them live the life of their dream infact dont ask them.to have a dream as dream destroy the joy of life and when dream break the child also can break ,at that time you will have no control over his mindset.

To be continued